Well since going to womens aid, theres one thing thats changed, and thats me. I decided I will no longer allow C to be nasty to me, if he dishes it out then he has to get it back, and I've been answering back at every opportunity.
I guess a big part of the problem (and it has gotten worse since N was born) is that myself and C are home together all day. Although when a couple marry they live together, but I do think that a little bit of absence is good for the relationship. Well, I am on maternity leave and so home with the baby all day, and C, well hes still studying, the PhD that has been going on for 8 years now.....
But my answering back has forced him to talk a little more than usual to me (just a little) and he did make a plea to me that touched my heart. I know that our life is difficult, but I think its very difficult for me as I don't only have to do the housework, care for the baby, make food etc, but I have to work and provide for us all, and that pressure is quite intense. He did say he appreciated the fact that I am supporting his studies and he asked me to just wait a little longer until he finishes his PhD and our lives will drastically improve. I am a real sucker, I am not the hard hearted woman I sometimes make myself out to be, but it made me think of our wedding vows to each other. Through better and worse, and this is the worse. Am I too hasty? Should I stick it through and things will get better, or am I just too optomistic. THe lady from womens aid seems to think that I am.....
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